As a younger version of myself I was consistently frustrated with the lack opportunities to sit around with like-minded women doing the life-work that I so badly needed.
The lack of resources and support I felt I had fuels the process of creating just that; environments, content and resources for women that I always wanted but never had access to.
Life can be very busy, and when we don’t make time for ourselves the days disappear in a blur of work commutes, deadlines and errands.
When we finally do make the time for our spirits we realize how incredibly restorative and healing this time can be.
Usually we hide this “stuff” at the bottom of our closet. When we finally start digging around in there we discover gems we forgot existed.
In the launch Get Your Groove Back workshop this weekend we had a lot of aha moments. Throughout our mix of guided discussion, activities and even meditative exercises participants said, “wow I didn’t even realize I felt that way–not until I said it outloud…”
The Opportunity To Emote In A Safe Space
We read about the poor numbers of women in leadership positions–especially in sectors like technology.
It is my personal belief that we need to stop focusing on this external conversation, and on an individual basis look inward and ask ourselves what is stopping us. By teaching women to love themselves–to feel enough–and provide women with the tools to get through the everyday challenges, the glass ceiling in any aspect of women’s lives will disappear.
The truth is as CEO of GetSatisfaction Wendy Lea said in a video interview once women don’t need to act like men in the workplace. She says “the female part of you is a good part, don’t mask that, be that, respect that, honor it. When you mask it you lose yourself.” And she’s right.
Much to notoriously tough corporate executive Martha Stewart’s chagrin, there is crying in baseball. Women shouldn’t feel like they have to stuff all their feelings down–because if you’ve ever done that before you know that eventually your repressed feelings blow the lid.
While crying at work isn’t the way to get yourself a raise, having a safe space to emote can be incredibly helpful–especially if you’re in the room with like-minded women who are going through the same thing.
Here are some of our participants making vision boards in the GYGB workshop.
“The world will be saved by the western woman.” -Dalai Lama
The above quote was volunteered at the closing of the workshop. The participant said in 2012 women can have anything they want–but we choose not to. We live our lives for other people, never feeling enough by their standards. The thing is we need to change the dialogue–and teach women how to live for themselves.
It was wonderful to see people sharing a part of themselves with us, and additionally share tools they use in their own lives to overcome challenges–many that stem from the challenges of being a woman–feeling enough for others and for herself.
It was exciting to launch our first Get Your Groove Back workshop and see why they came.
Here’s what the participants had to say about their motivation for attending:
- I want to speak from a place of passion.
- I want to figure out what empowers me.
- I want to learn how to stay focused in my life.
- I want to work on expressing myself on a daily basis.
- I want to learn better tools to take care of myself.
- I want to rediscover and connect with my passions.
- I want to work on a concrete plan I can develop and take away with me.
- I want to develop more self awareness around my identity as a woman and as a professional.
- I need to develop a new career personae and the confidence that supplements that.
- I’m a CEO in a new job and I need ways to overcome my fear of stepping out.
- I want to reconnect with my passion for life and start writing again.
Co-teacher Dr. Barbara Mark and I were delighted by the group that joined us for the session, and we felt blessed and honored to be in the presence of such great women. Here is what they said about their workshop experience with us:
- It was clearly thought out, very well ran and extremely informative while being relaxing, warm, and inviting. All in less than 3 hours is quite an accomplishment.
- I liked the openness of the participants–because it was a smaller group everyone got to participate and we felt comfortable doing so.
- The activity on “triggers” helped me identify challenges and solutions within myself.
- The sharing session was candid and made me realize that I’m not the only person facing the problems I face. I gained problem-solving skills that will help me moving forward.
- The exercise that built insight connecting mind and body—the visualization and the vision board work were rewarding.
- I enjoyed the small group and opportunity to share—I also enjoyed the hands on activity—getting to be creative and learning from the experience of others.
I am so grateful to these women who attended, and opened themselves up to us.
There are days where I forget that people actually read my blog. I put some very personal things on the internet at the hope that you are reading out there. I also hope that the hard lessons learned that I’ve gleaned will help you in your personal lives. Because it’s the internet, I don’t always know if the messages resonate with you.
One woman showed up to the workshop and said she had read my blog Promises I Make to Myself. She said the blog resonated with her.
It’s moments like this that I know I am on this journey for a reason. I know the world needs this healing work–and I’m very pulled toward it.
*Dr. Barbara Mark and I will be announcing our second workshop shortly. The workshop will focus around female empowerment. The workshop will take place August 11th, 2012 from 1:00-4:30PM in San Francisco at the Full Circle Institute at 2325 Third Street | Suite 337 | San Francisco, CA 94107. There are only ten spots. The cost is $95. Feel free to email me if you would like to reserve your spot.